Keeping the Divorce Process Friendly

Divorce Does Not Have To Be Bitter

If you are married and socialize with a group of friends on a regular basis, at some point at least one couple if not several couples in that group will go through a divorce. It's inevitable. The divorce statistics are too high. Almost one in every two marriages ends in divorce these days and most of those divorces turn ugly. You know, you see it all the time. The "once" loving couple is now slinging mud at each other from across an expensive conference table in a high-powered attorney's office. But, it doesn't have to be that way.

• First Marriages: 45 percent to 50 percent end in divorce
• Second Marriage: 60 percent to 67 percent end in divorce
• Third Marriage 70 percent to 73 percent end in divorce [1]

The following scenario is typical of the type of divorce this firm handles through the eyes of the wife. It is based on the concept that couples do not have to hate each other or be bitter through the process of divorce:

Now, we're getting divorced. And are we sad? Sure. Am I blaming my husband for the divorce? Absolutely not. Is he blaming me? No. We tried to fix it but it didn't work. We loved each other and spent 12 years together but we shouldn't be married anymore. The best part is that we are taking responsibility for our part in the breakup of the marriage. There isn't any anger or hatred because we're not blaming each other. And by owning our own crap, our nine-year-old daughter is completely fine about us getting divorced. Yes, she's sad -- like we are -- but she's ok.


Some advice if you are considering divorce:

• If you're unhappy, go to your spouse and tell them what's wrong. Be completely honest.

• Communicate to your spouse and figure out if the two of you want to make an effort to save the marriage or not. No pretending to be innocent and harboring bad feeling.

• Look at your role in why the marriage is breaking up and own your crap. Don't just blame the other person.

• Communicate the truth about the marriage. Walk away knowing it was both of you who contributed to the downfall of your marriage. It's a powerful feeling.

Finally, do not waste your hard-earned money on legal fees when going through the process of divorce. Keep the money in the family. There is no need to litigate or “fight it out.” Most matters can be amicably resolved and the paperwork can and should be handled by professionals who are dedicated to saving you money.

Call us for a complimentay consultation. We have been handling divorce procedures for since 1981 for couples who do not wish to waste their time or money. Visit us at www.divorcefilers.com or call us at 212-608-1630. Our e-mail is: info@divorcefilers.com